Are you at the end of the road in your relationship with your spouse? Have to tried to resolve, mend, fix, rekindle your love for one another? Have you had some professional help—for example couples counselling, relationship coaching or have you been to Relate? If you answered 'yes' to these questions, then I may be able to help you.
It is incredibly sad when a relationship has irretrievably broken down–especially if there are children involved–but with the best will in the world, sometimes a relationship is beyond mending and divorcing may be the best solution for you, your spouse and your children.
What is divorcing with dignity?
It's about sorting things out with your spouse with love. It's about being able to look back on your divorce with your head held high knowing that you did it in a dignified manner. That if you have children that their needs are met. It's about working things out fairly. It's about respecting your spouse and the time you have shared together.
Divorcing with dignity also allows you to manage the process without necessarily involving solicitors which can make a huge difference to the financial impact on divorcing too.
Divorcing – even when done with dignity – is challenging and often sad. Before we set out on this journey, I want you to be sure – very sure – this is the path you want to go down. So I will begin by exploring with you the following:
what is your relationship like now?
when did things begin to unravel for you and your spouse?
what have you done to try and heal the relationship?
if your spouse changed some of their ways, would you stay?
if you have children – how can you still both parent with love?
what are all of your available options?
if you decide to go down this path, what is the likely response of your spouse both initially and in the longer term?
Many years ago, my husband and I had reached the end of our road too. During the last 4 years of our marriage we talked (a lot), tried to recapture the magic, tried all the things we were supposed to do and yet we were still growing further apart. We slept on the outside edges of our super-king sized bed: the empty space between us symbolic of our lives. We spoke about our children, work and house stuff, but no longer about our feelings, our dreams or our needs. My husband was (still is) a good man, but together we were making each other very unhappy. When we finally spoke of divorce I was determined to find a way of doing it with honour, respect and without solicitors. And that's what happened. It's this initial experience that lead me to help people go through their own divorce.
How does it work?
Everyone is unique. Although there are steps that apply to most people going through this coaching process – how I coach you through it will be tailored to your needs. Like any of my Life Coaching, it is done on the phone. I usually work with just you, but I can, if you wish, work with your spouse too. The best way is to discuss you situation and see how I can help you.
I offer a 55 minute trial Life Coaching session on the phone for £35. This is available for anyone who would like to see what it is like to be coached by me. Pay online or get in touch for other payment methods.
To find out more – it's OK just to have a chat – call me on 01869 821799 or on lo-call rate 0845 83 86 733 (free with some telephone providers) or email me